Imagine these scenarios and may be you can relate to some of them.
Jill is wearing a new dress
Jill: Hey Jack, how do I look in this new dress?
Jack: Why, you look just great…
Jill: What..you mean to say I don’t look great in other dresses?
Jill is wearing a blue dress.
Jill: I think this blue dress is lovely. What do you think?
Jack: It looks great on you, Jack
Jill: Hmm.. you mean the other colors won’t suit me..
Jill is wearing a green dress.
Jill: Do you think I look thinner in this green dress?
Jack: I don’t think so.
Jill: Are you saying I am fat?
Busted once again.
This time, John gets some help from friends.
Jill is wearing a black dress.
Jill: So, what do you think about this black dress?
Jack: Honey, you are making this black dress look like a million bucks just like the way you do for all other dresses.
Jill: Wow.. that’s so sweet, Jack.
Moral of the story:
It’s all in the words!!!!
PS: I have used an example to make a point ONLY. I have limited expertise on the topic covered in the scenarios.
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