Comments on: Why nice people will win BIG TIME in the long run?

By: Lynn West

Lynn West — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 16:16:00 +0000

What is kindess, love. I must work harder and think less.

By: Lynn West

Lynn West — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 16:09:00 +0000

Well, here I am again trying to be kind. Is nice and kind the same thing? Well, some of my favorite people make me laugh over the strangest off the wall things. I think comedians, even though sometimes unkind result in kindness breaking the tension of pain.

By: ....

.... — Sun, 24 Jul 2011 01:58:00 +0000

Rajesh I am interested in what your deffinition of nice is. Please be specific.

Thanks.

By: rajesh301

rajesh301 — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 12:44:30 +0000

Nikodemus, the fact that these tribes are welcoming you is a positive sign. Now, it is your responsibility to engage with them and BECOME one. Remember that sometimes they would have made an exception in your case to include you. If you feel inside that you are not one of them, they can see through it and they will treat you that way. Start contributing in whatever way you can to these tribes and soon, you will be one of them

Hope this helps.

Best,
Rajesh

By: Nikodemus

Nikodemus — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 12:41:36 +0000

A lot of people consider me a super-nice guy, and I can confirm first-hand that what you wrote here is quite true. However, there is a strange side effect, at least in my case. Being able to communicate with different people, I became member of many tribes at the same time – but I don't feel like a real member, or “full member”, of any of them. I cannot say which tribe I belong to, and while I have access to all of them, they don't always accept me completely, especially when they know that I have relationships with other groups. Any thought about it?

By: Dancing for your Tribe « Active Garage

Dancing for your Tribe « Active Garage — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 08:12:54 +0000

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By: Rajesh Setty

Rajesh Setty — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 11:03:16 +0000

Hi Darren,

I have explained clearly why “being nice” provides a competitive advantage when jumping tribes. Being nice provides that edge that others don’t have. Of course, without building relationships, you cannot exist in the tribes.

As far as feedback is concerned, all types of feedback is welcome.

One other thing to consider is to present your own research and link to your blog posts. One has to be critical but being critical just for the sake of being critical won’t help anyone.

Look forward to reading your own analysis on your blog or elsewhere.

All the best.

Cheers,
Rajesh

By: Darren Chang

Darren Chang — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 08:57:59 +0000

Your point of jumping the queue makes sense, but your article never establishes why being nice has anything to do with it. You cannot simply make a statement and call it a research/study. Based on my own experience jumping the queue requires you to build relationship with the person/people from the higher tribe. This relationship is based whether you can help the higher tribe person jump the queue. Being nice contributes nothing here. I also want to point out that people make gratuitous praises about the posts at this blog. Be more critical – that’s how a blog becomes thought provoking and helpful.

By: Pivotal Inspiration » Nice people are winners

Pivotal Inspiration » Nice people are winners — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 14:50:12 +0000

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By: Rajesh Setty

Rajesh Setty — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 18:41:14 +0000

Thanks to all of you.

@Rick Wolff, You made me smile here

I love your website. Stunning!

For the benefit of others, here is the link to Rick’s website:

http://www.rickwolff.com

Best,
Rajesh