Comments on: Ways to distinguish yourself #199 – Exit gracefully http://www.rajeshsetty.com/distinguish-yourself/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-199-exit-gracefully Entrepreneur. Author. Speaker & Alchemist Thu, 02 Feb 2012 03:43:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Rajesh Setty http://www.rajeshsetty.com/distinguish-yourself/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-199-exit-gracefully/comment-page-1#comment-2123 Rajesh Setty Tue, 25 Nov 2008 21:21:50 +0000 http://blog.lifebeyondcode.com/?p=1738#comment-2123 Very nicely said. Thanks Kare. Happy Thanksgiving. Best, Rajesh Very nicely said. Thanks Kare.

Happy Thanksgiving.

Best,
Rajesh

]]> By: Kare Anderson http://www.rajeshsetty.com/distinguish-yourself/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-199-exit-gracefully/comment-page-1#comment-2122 Kare Anderson Tue, 25 Nov 2008 21:16:17 +0000 http://blog.lifebeyondcode.com/?p=1738#comment-2122 My friend Paul Geffner says Right Relationships are a matter of recognizing and keep the right distance. People like people who like them. Also, whether I want to strengthen the relationship or step away from it I've found that praising the specific character trait or action that most matters to that person can smooth the way - closer or away. Bringing out the best side in someone often means they see and support my better side. That way we have a greater chance of becoming happier and higher-performing - together or when around each other. But not always. Sometimes it even brings out an unexpected and positive facet of that person, moving me to stay connected - if I can stay connected to that facet. My friend Paul Geffner says Right Relationships are a matter of recognizing and keep the right distance.

People like people who like them.
Also, whether I want to strengthen the relationship
or step away from it I’ve found that praising
the specific character trait or action
that most matters to that person can smooth the way – closer or away.

Bringing out the best side in someone often means they see and support my better side. That way we have a greater chance of becoming happier and higher-performing – together or when around each other. But not always.

Sometimes it even brings out an unexpected and positive facet of that person, moving me to stay connected – if I can stay connected to that facet.

]]> By: Rajesh Setty http://www.rajeshsetty.com/distinguish-yourself/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-199-exit-gracefully/comment-page-1#comment-2121 Rajesh Setty Tue, 25 Nov 2008 06:17:40 +0000 http://blog.lifebeyondcode.com/?p=1738#comment-2121 Hi Vijay, Thank you for your comment. You got it right - "grace" is the keyword that works like magic. It is costly for both parties to do it any other way. Also, frequency of contact may not be a good metric. A better metric is "level of caring". If you care enough, you will see that you can pick up where you left even after a long period of no contact. Actually, if you care enough you can easily find ways to be in touch without that being a huge cost to you. Have a wonderful week ahead. Best, Raj Hi Vijay,

Thank you for your comment. You got it right – “grace” is the keyword that works like magic. It is costly for both parties to do it any other way.

Also, frequency of contact may not be a good metric. A better metric is “level of caring”. If you care enough, you will see that you can pick up where you left even after a long period of no contact. Actually, if you care enough you can easily find ways to be in touch without that being a huge cost to you.

Have a wonderful week ahead.

Best,
Raj

]]> By: Vijay http://www.rajeshsetty.com/distinguish-yourself/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-199-exit-gracefully/comment-page-1#comment-2120 Vijay Tue, 25 Nov 2008 06:13:41 +0000 http://blog.lifebeyondcode.com/?p=1738#comment-2120 Raj, There are times when I slow-down a relationship because it is too fast on me or getting too hot for me to handle. Sometimes, people interpret that as receding from the relation. I still have to find a way to gracefully slow-down, especially on new relations. Cheers, Vijay Raj, There are times when I slow-down a relationship because it is too fast on me or getting too hot for me to handle. Sometimes, people interpret that as receding from the relation. I still have to find a way to gracefully slow-down, especially on new relations.

Cheers,
Vijay

]]> By: Rajesh Setty http://www.rajeshsetty.com/distinguish-yourself/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-199-exit-gracefully/comment-page-1#comment-2119 Rajesh Setty Mon, 24 Nov 2008 19:44:19 +0000 http://blog.lifebeyondcode.com/?p=1738#comment-2119 Good question Ananth. A mistake that might break the trust of someone is usually very COSTLY. Rebuilding trust is not easy as giving you a "second chance" is something that ONLY the other person can decide. It is less costly for the person to just move on. So, the first option is NEVER to make a mistake that will break someone's trust. If for unfortunate reason that mistake has been committed, pray that the other person will give you a second chance and start conducting in a manner that you claim back the trust one step at a time. It can be a LONG journey,though. Best, Raj Good question Ananth.

A mistake that might break the trust of someone is usually very COSTLY. Rebuilding trust is not easy as giving you a “second chance” is something that ONLY the other person can decide. It is less costly for the person to just move on.

So, the first option is NEVER to make a mistake that will break someone’s trust. If for unfortunate reason that mistake has been committed, pray that the other person will give you a second chance and start conducting in a manner that you claim back the trust one step at a time.

It can be a LONG journey,though.

Best,
Raj

]]> By: Ananth http://www.rajeshsetty.com/distinguish-yourself/ways-to-distinguish-yourself-199-exit-gracefully/comment-page-1#comment-2118 Ananth Mon, 24 Nov 2008 19:04:28 +0000 http://blog.lifebeyondcode.com/?p=1738#comment-2118 What if due to some mistake, a relationship beneficial to both the persons is about to be broken? What should a person who is interested in improving the relationship do? Obviously he has done something which made him lose the trust of the other person, so his words dont have much weight now, but how can he go about salvaging the relationship? What if due to some mistake, a relationship beneficial to both the persons is about to be broken? What should a person who is interested in improving the relationship do? Obviously he has done something which made him lose the trust of the other person, so his words dont have much weight now, but how can he go about salvaging the relationship?

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