Comments on: Ways to distinguish yourself #138 – Stop trying to please everyone

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 12 Jun 2006 04:39:00 +0000

First, welcome to Life Beyond Code!
Thanks for your comments. From the questions on the comments and those that I received in email, it is clear that I should have been more clear in my post
I believe that we are either going up (by continuous investments on our personal growth) or sliding down (no investment in our personal growth)
Once we start growing, we start attracting powerful people in our lives. These people are more objective and they understand the concept that “everyone cannot please everyone all the time.” This means that they won’t put un-necessary pressure on you to please them. Similarly, once you start gaining power, you won’t expect others to ALWAYS please you.
Investment in personal growth is no longer an option.
Cheers,
Rajesh

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 12 Jun 2006 04:29:00 +0000

Dear Rajesh,
I am the first time reader of your Blog,lifebeyondcode. Its been interesting to read the articles that you have presented.
As you said,in your article(ways to distinguish),definelty not every one with whom we are trying to move around us are going to please us. And it applies in the reverse way also. But,what i think is, definetly,this will through an insight into the spectrum of understanding human beings arounds us.
This will also help us in developing our self awarness and the qualities we need to develop,may not be for others to please us,But,in a long term to lead a good relationship. What do you thing on this?
Thanks,
Anand

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 12 Jun 2006 04:04:00 +0000

Thanks for your comment and question Prashant. First, there is no fault of anyone. It is just a wrong expectation to always expect people around us to please us. I think that will be the fastest way to feel sad.
It is a plain fact of life that just like you can’t please everyone all the time, everyone else around you can’t please you all the time.
Cheers,
Rajesh

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 12 Jun 2006 03:55:00 +0000

Hi Rajesh,
The last point was really new to me. Many of us know we cannot please everyone. But we dont realise that everyone cannot please us.
Can you also tell as to how do we accept such a situation? I mean what do we do when a person is able to please others but not us? Does the fault lies in us?
Regards,
Prashant